Successful Relationships – Making Relationships Work
Friday, October 29th, 2010Successful Relationships – Making Relationships Work
Opposites attract and complement each other. Two different personalities will create a strong relationship, as long as they are equally strong – act like a doormat and you’ll be treated like one.
Very often, an idealistic person will be attracted to someone practical. If each absorbs some of the qualities of the other, they will enrich each other’s lives leading to more shared experiences and understanding – rather than declaring that ‘their’ way is the right one.
Grow to understand each other, and the relationship will grow to a greater love or will fall apart.
How do you tell which way your relationship is heading?
The stronger personality will become dominant – accept that or ensure that you assert yourself. Asserting yourself doesn’t have to be done in a confrontational way, just firmly let your partner know that you love them but have feelings and a personality of your own which you expect them to respect.
The picture you have in your mind of what your ideal relationship should be like is unlikely to happen in reality – it’s probably not your partner’s ideal and they don’t know about yours because they don’t know what’s in your mind!
This can easily determine how you present yourself to your partner and/or react to them – and be out of keeping with what they intended or expected – with the resultant arguments and disagreements.
Don’t retaliate to your partner’s bad behavior – be true to your own self esteem – remind yourself that you are an equal partner in this relationship and they will eventually respect you for that.
Equality in a relationship is key to its success. That is not equality in wealth, education, social status, …, but that each person values themself and their contribution to the relationship – AND – that each of you respects the other for who they are!
Accepting this leads to both of you having the confidence that you each have something of equal value to bring to the relationship. You are an individual, able to make up your own mind and make your own judgments. If you believe that and act on it, you will be respected and treated as an equal.
Forgetting that people are different, but not inferior, can lead some to see themselves as the superior partner because they are looking only at their best qualities that they bring to the relationship. They forget that their partner has equally valid, although different, qualities to bring to the relationship.
People should learn from each other, respect each other, accept each other – otherwise the relationship won’t survive!
Respect your partner, listen to their opinions even if they differ from yours, accept they have their own values, and your relationship will have a good foundation on which to grow and survive. Treat your partner as your inferior, or believe that you are inferior, and the relationship will be heading for disaster!
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This article is based on the author’s own experiences, and is written for information only in the hope that it will help you. You must decide for yourself, and take responsibility for, anything you do as a result of reading this article.
This article is written to encourage you to value yourself as a first step to maintaining or repairing your relationship.
Take the next step and find out the secrets of a successful relationship.
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